Newly Single Guy Has Bumble Date That Lasts 6 Minutes

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By Jackie Pilossoph, Creator and Editor-in-chief, Divorced Girl Smiling site, podcast and app, Love Essentially columnist and author

Are you familiar with Bumble? It’s a dating app similar to Tinder, but with Bumble, the woman makes the first move. The following Love Essentially column, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press isn’t a slam on Bumble, but is about a newly single guy who went on a date with a girl he met on Bumble and it lasted only 6 minutes!

6-Minute Date Has Newly Single Guy Doubting Dating Apps by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press

A friend of mine said he had heard some horror stories about internet dating, but decided to keep an open mind and give it a try. Recently out of a three-year relationship, Mark Kulczak, a 47-year-old Denver-based mortgage broker said at his age, online dating seemed to make sense.

After noticing a recent Facebook post he made about a less-than-ideal date he recently had, I talked with him a bit about his experience with online dating.

“For the past few years I’ve been in a committed relationship and haven’t been out there, so I don’t really have a social life anymore,” Kulczak said. “Everyone I know is married and I don’t have a group of friends I can call to go out on a Friday or Saturday night. Plus, I’m not really into going to bars anymore.”


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Apprehensive but optimistic, Kulczak braced himself, and set up an account on Bumble. For those who aren’t familiar with Bumble, it is a trendy dating app everyone is talking about these days. Similar to Tinder, a key difference for Bumble’s is that women get to make the first move.

A few days after joining, Kulczak swiped right on a woman he found attractive and they began emailing each other.

“Emailing is difficult because it’s hard to get a read on the energy level, but she sounded great. She was 42, athletic, and lived near me,” he said.

The two agreed to meet at a quaint restaurant in their area. What happened next wasn’t good.

“I walked in and saw her sitting at the bar. She was very attractive,” Kulczak said. “I sat down next to her, turned and said with a smile, ‘Hi, I’m Mark.’ She looked up at me for a second and turned back to face the bar.”

Surprised at her cold demeanor, Kulczak said he decided to give her the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she was nervous. Maybe she’d had a bad day.


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“I started small talking with her, asking her questions. ‘How was your day?’ She was giving me three-word answers and wouldn’t even look at me,” he said. “After 10 questions with three-word answers, I decided, ‘I don’t have time for this.’ I need electricity, confidence, warmth, and no matter how pretty she was, it didn’t matter. She seemed insecure and cold. I knew there was no way this thing was going to turn around.”

Kulczak said he stood up, gave her a gentle pat on the shoulder and said, “This isn’t going to work for me, I’m sorry.” He said he knew it wasn’t going to work, but still felt badly about the situation.

“When I got to my car, I jumped on Bumble to send her a message, but she had already deleted me,” he said.

When asked why he didn’t confront the date and ask her what was wrong, Kulczak said he wasn’t sure of the right way to handle the situation.

This is all new to me. But, I do know that whatever was wrong, the person I want to be with would have given me some kind of explanation,” he answered. “It’s hard not to take things personally, and I think she acted selfishly and didn’t consider my feelings.”

How did the six-minute date affect this newly single guy for the future?

“It’s not just her. I don’t think I can do this,” he said. “I’ve emailed about 30 women on Tinder and Bumble and it just seems impersonal. I believe in the old fashioned way of meeting women. I need to meet women in person and have eye contact. I don’t want to make a decision on whether or not I like someone based on a photo.”

Kulczak said he still isn’t planning on hitting the bars to try to meet women, but that he is considering going to more parties, events and fundraisers.

I’m sure the six-minute date is one of countless nightmares that men and women experience in online dating. That said, it is still one of the top ways men and women meet, connect and fall in love.

But, if you feel the same way as Kulczak, and you can’t stand swiping right or left anymore, here are 10 other ways to meet single people:

1. Sporting events

2. Volunteering

3. Starbucks, other coffee places, or juice bars

4. Restaurant outdoor patios

5. Concerts

6. The grocery store – especially in the prepared foods section

7. Car washes

8. The Apple or AT&T store

9. Through your married friends – ask them if they have any single friends

10. Church or synagogue

I don’t view Kulczak’s six-minute date as a disaster. I see it as a learning experience, or perhaps even something to giggle about down the road. But even more so…(Click here to read the rest of the article, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press.)

Like this article? Check out “Dating Advice: The Hot And Cold Guy.”


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Divorced Girl Smiling is here to empower, connect and inspire you. Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling, the site, the podcast and the app. A former television journalist and newspaper features reporter, Pilossoph is also the author of four novels and the writer of her weekly relationship column, Love Essentially. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism and lives in Chicago with her two teenagers. The author of the novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase, Pilossoph also writes the weekly dating and relationships advice column, “Love Essentially”, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and the Chicago Tribune online. Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.

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