Getting Divorced? 4 Reasons You Need Your Friends

By Jackie Pilossoph, Editor-in-chief, Divorced Girl Smiling, Love Essentially columnist and author

Several years ago when I was getting divorced, I remember thinking that I didn’t know a single divorced person in my community. It was a terribly lonely and isolating feeling. So, when I met “Julia” in my kickboxing class and found out she was getting divorced also, we became instant best friends (we still are 9 years later.) We went to dinners together and we talked for hours and we laughed about so many things. But what I remember so clearly is how much she was there for me back then. I cannot count the number of times I cried in her car and she would just listen. Julia was a lifesaver—a true friend.  

I can’t stress how important it is to have friends during a divorce, and to make new ones. No one should have to feel alone during that brutal time.

Well, guess what? There is a new app called Friendable that I think is an amazing concept, and is a wonderful tool for people getting divorced. Here is a guest post that was written by some members of the Friendable team.


4 Reasons Friendships Are Important, Especially During a Divorce

by the Friendable App team


When you’re in the midst of a rough divorce, it can be easy to get tunnel vision. All you see is your relationship, what it used to be, and what it has become, and in a moment of such intense concentration it’s not hard to lose track of the outside world a little. Even in a relatively amicable divorce, the stress of all the paperwork, legal matters and questions can make you feel like you have developed a one-track mind.


During times like this, it is important to remember that you are not alone in dealing with these issues. Friends can make all the difference when you are trying to pull through a divorce with as little stress as possible. So even when you are tempted to shut the rest of the world out, remember these four reasons why friendships are especially important during a divorce:


Outside Perspective


Even if you want to focus on other aspects of life, the act of divorce is so trying and complicated that it can often absorb your attention for far longer than you’d like. That’s why friends are especially important. They will help you break out of your routine, see things in a new light, and distract you from negative thoughts when you need it most.


Friends might also be able to provide you with new perspectives that will brighten your outlook on the whole situation. After all, everyone’s experiences are different, and each friend can offer their own unique ways to cope.


Physical and Material Aid


Sometimes a divorce can leave you scrambling. In these situations, you may be in need of a bed or couch to rest your head on, a small loan to get back on your feet, a new job, or help with your kids. And with real friends, you will never feel like a moocher – because it’s just what friends do.


Friendly Support


Sometimes, you just want someone to take your side or understand your position. Who better to count on than a good friend? Talk through your issues, express yourself, (in other words, vent), and rest assured that your friend will have your back during your time of need.


A one-on-one can really change your way of thinking about your situation. Maybe one of your friends has even gone through what you’re feeling right now. You never know unless you put yourself out there and lean on your friends for support.


Group Therapy


Whether it’s in your living room over a few glasses of wine or at your favorite local restaurant, a group outing with your friends can be therapeutic. Girl’s nights include stimulating conversation, bonding, and always some good laughs.


In closing, friendships become invaluable during a divorce, and when you really meet those special ones, their loyalty and support will give you a whole new sense of hope and happiness.


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Friendable is a new app (which is free, by the way) that helps you make new friends and meet new people who share the same interests as you. With events in your area, meet up groups and the ability to chat with others, Friendable makes it easy by allowing you to use your location to help find people nearby! Learn more or download right now!







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Editor-in-chief: Jackie Pilossoph

Divorce is a journey. Live it with grace, courage and gratitude. Peace and joy are on the way! Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling. The author of the novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase, Pilossoph also writes the weekly dating and relationships advice column, “Love Essentially”, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and the Chicago Tribune online. Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.

2 Responses to “Getting Divorced? 4 Reasons You Need Your Friends”

  1. Carissa Murillo

    Thanks so much for sharing this insightful piece. It’s so funny because I’ve been using Friendable for months and I absolutely love it and recommend it to all of my single friends.

  2. Marcia J

    Hi new friends, wondering if there are single mothers out there feeling insane with teenagers!


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