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Does It Matter Who Files for Divorce First?

Does it matter who files for divorce first? This is an important question, as the decision to initiate the divorce proceedings can influence various aspects of the legal process, including jurisdiction and preliminary court orders. Understanding these implications can help you navigate divorce more effectively, ensuring that you are prepared for the steps that follow. … Read more

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Make Your House a Home after Divorce

Divorce changes many things—including how we define home. Maybe the house you shared no longer feels like yours. Maybe you’re starting fresh in a new space, filled with possibility but also uncertainty. Wherever you are in the journey, one of the most powerful things you can do is make your house a home. In other … Read more

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My Ex Moved On Immediately: 3 Seconds After We Got Separated In Fact

There are many heartbreaks that happen during a divorce. The first heartbreak occurs during that gut-wrenching moment you know you are getting divorced: either you both realize the best option for you as a couple is to split, or your ex blindsides you with a conversation that starts with, “Honey, we need to talk,” and … Read more

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Women Paying Alimony: Myths, Facts and Advice

There’s a prevalent misconception that only men are obligated to pay spousal support in divorce–also known as alimony. However, in today’s ever-evolving landscape of gender roles, both professionally and domestically, the truth is that women paying alimony is becoming more and more common. This legal obligation is determined by various factors, emphasizing the importance of … Read more

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19 Tips for Those Facing a High Conflict Divorce

What exactly is a high conflict divorce? Some people describe it as a battle, a stressful time filled with anger, resentment and hate, a time when kids are put in the middle and see the ugliness of their parents fighting, both in court and at home.   Believe it or not, only about 8-15% of … Read more

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Planning for a Divorce: Let’s Talk Strategies

When you’re facing divorce, it feels like a million things are hitting you all at once. Legal papers you don’t understand, money questions that keep you up at night, emotional conversations that leave you drained. It’s no wonder you feel overwhelmed and stuck in reaction mode. But here’s what most women don’t realize: Divorce isn’t … Read more

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What You Need (And Don’t Need) For Happiness As You Move On After Divorce

Happiness after divorce seems almost unimaginable while you’re going through one. It’s like you just can’t picture it. “What’s my life going to be like when the divorce is final and when all of this is settled? How am I going to move on after divorce? The answers to these questions are difficult because all … Read more

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What is Equitable Distribution in a Divorce?

What does equitable distribution mean in a divorce? You and your spouse have likely accumulated property and other assets during your marriage. Now that the marriage is coming to an end, you’ll have to divide the property as part of the divorce settlement. North Carolina uses the law of equitable distribution when dividing property. What … Read more

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Why Some People Recover From Divorce And Others Stay Stuck

We all know that divorce, especially high conflict divorce, can be devastating. Some men and women are so traumatized, that it takes them years to recover from divorce. Really high conflict divorces have even been known to cause post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).   Yet, while some men and women struggle to survive, others thrive. Instead … Read more

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A Lack of Compassion: It Had Me in Tears

In my day-to-day life, I deal with people going through a divorce, who are perhaps at their lowest point in life. I feel their shock, sadness, hopelessness, fear, and stress. The worst possible things I could do when talking to these women are: judge them, not listen to them, not validate them, and the worst … Read more

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Before Selling a House in Divorce: Consider Renovating!

Going through a divorce comes with more than enough emotional weight—and when it comes time to sell the shared home, the last thing anyone wants is added stress. But here’s the truth: with the right approach, selling a house in divorce doesn’t have to be overwhelming—and it can be more profitable than you think. If … Read more

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You’re One Beautiful Divorced Girl! 15 Self-Confidence Boosters

This article comes from the bottom of my heart. Being newly separated or newly divorced can play a huge role when it comes to self-confidence. Going through a divorce can cause even someone with normally great self-esteem to have self-doubt and insecurities. The good news is, the lack of self-confidence is temporary a lot of … Read more