A Refreshing Act Of Kindness Amongst Middle School Girl Drama

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By Jackie Pilossoph, Creator and Editor-in-chief, Divorced Girl Smiling site, podcast and app, Love Essentially columnist and author

Any mom who has a daughter in middle school is no stranger to the bullying, the pettiness, the mean behavior and the tears that go on. Middle school girl drama breaks your heart for your daughter.  But last week, an exceptional act of kindness that took place at my daughter’s school gave me hope and inspiration! Here is my Love Essentially column about what happened.

When Post-It Notes Help Girls See The Beauty In Themselves by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group

I’m a huge fan of Post-it notes, especially when it comes to love.



Finding a little message adhered to the fridge, to your desk, to your pillow or in your lunch box that reads, for example, “I adore you,” “Hope you’re having a great day,” “I’ll miss you” or “Welcome home” is a great way to make someone feel special, important and loved.

Then again, Post-it notes can also hurt like hell. Just ask Carrie Bradshaw from “Sex and the City.” Remember that famous episode where her boyfriend, Jack Berger, breaks up with her via Post-it?


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“I’m sorry, I can’t, don’t hate me,” read the little yellow sticky pad.


But this past week, I heard a Post-it note story that inspired me and warmed my heart. It happened at my daughter’s middle school. Yep, you heard right. Middle school, a place full of girls who are sometimes feeling insecure, and therefore can be mean or unkind at times. A place where drama runs high and frequent tears aren’t uncommon.

(Click here to read the rest of the article, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press.)

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    Divorced Girl Smiling is here to empower, connect and inspire you. Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling, the site, the podcast and the app. A former television journalist and newspaper features reporter, Pilossoph is also the author of four novels and the writer of her weekly relationship column, Love Essentially. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism and lives in Chicago with her two teenagers. The author of the novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase, Pilossoph also writes the weekly dating and relationships advice column, “Love Essentially”, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and the Chicago Tribune online. Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.

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