A Great Book For Couples: No Advice, Just Questions

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By Jackie Pilossoph, Creator and Editor-in-chief, Divorced Girl Smiling site, podcast and app, Love Essentially columnist and author

In this week’s Love Essentially, I feature what I think is a great book for couples. It’s meant to foster conversation and bring couples closer together. Here is the article:

New relationship book is all questions, no advice

by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group

How well do you really know your partner?

Do you know how he or she would rate your first date with each other? What commercial causes him or her to tear up? If you went to prison, do you know how long he or she would wait for you?



Robert K. Elder wants to help you learn the answers to these and about 100 more questions in his newly released book, “Read Your Partner Like A Book.”

“It’s a mash-up of the old ‘Newlywed Game’ and ‘The Five Love Languages,’” said Elder, a Chicago-based digital executive and author of eight other nonfiction books. “It’s a chance to get to know your partner or test how well you know your partner in a fun, lighthearted way.”

Elder, a former editor-in-chief of the Pioneer Press, designed “Read Your Partner Like A Book” like a workbook.

It includes spaces for both partners to write in answers to fill-in-the-blank questions on the topics of family, sex, traditions, and personal habits and quirks. Question include: “My partner can make me laugh by…/I can make my partner laugh by…,” “I deal with anxiety best when I’m…/My partner deals with anxiety by…”and “If we ever break up it’ll be because…a) Ryan Gosling finally returned my call. b) Ryan Gosling finally returned your call. c) Ryan Gosling will surely do the dishes, unlike someone I know. d) Ryan Gosling filed a restraining order. e) other.”


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Elder said the purpose of his book is help couples have fun, to promote healthy communication and to bring them closer together in a non-threatening way.

“This isn’t a relationship advice book…(Click here to read the rest of the article, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and several other newspapers across the U.S.)

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    Divorced Girl Smiling is here to empower, connect and inspire you. Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling, the site, the podcast and the app. A former television journalist and newspaper features reporter, Pilossoph is also the author of four novels and the writer of her weekly relationship column, Love Essentially. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism and lives in Chicago with her two teenagers. The author of the novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase, Pilossoph also writes the weekly dating and relationships advice column, “Love Essentially”, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and the Chicago Tribune online. Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.

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