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18 Things I Love About Single Dads

I can spot them really easily. I’m talking about single dads. I guess it’s because I’ve been divorced for so long, I just have a sixth sense. Usually, single dads have a very lovable way about them. You can see a combination of stress, pride and of course love in how they interact with their … Read more

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Co-parenting Boundaries While in a New Relationship

Starting a new relationship while co-parenting can feel like stepping into uncharted waters—especially when the waves of the past haven’t fully settled. Add to that the unpredictable tides of a new partner’s expectations, your child’s emotional needs, and your co-parent’s reactions, and the journey can quickly become choppy. But here’s the key. The idea of … Read more

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Divorce Stress and Anxiety Fueled by a Challenging Co-parent

Divorce stress and anxiety is to be expected. But things can get a lot more stressful if you are dealing with a challenging co-parent. Balancing the responsibilities of raising a child with another person, who may have different parenting styles and perspectives isn’t easy. Here is what one woman going through a divorce wrote to … Read more

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A Great Example of How to be Your Best Self in Divorce

I met a policeman recently, who happens to be a great example of how to be your best self in divorce.  This man went through a divorce 8 years ago and his youngest child just turned 18 after graduating high school.  His child support orders are through. Over! He never has to pay his wife … Read more

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My Job Description for “Mom.” Happy Mother’s Day!

I’ve had several different careers over the course of my professional life. Most of the work has been challenging and enjoyable, some jobs were easy and fun, a couple paid well but were unfulfilling, a couple paid horrible but were fun, and one job I had was unbearable, meaning I cried every morning because I … Read more

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How Alienation of a Child from a Parent Hurts Everyone Involved

I’m a divorce mediator, which means I often work with couples who wish to be amicable and to sustain and enhance their ability to co-parent their children. On the other end of the divorce spectrum is something that is heartbreaking, full of pain, terribly selfish and so harmful: alienation of a child from a parent. … Read more

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Divorce, Kids and The Anchor You Might Not Expect

Divorce ranks among life’s most challenging transitions, impacting not only parents but also the kids who are deeply affected by the shifts in their family dynamics. For parents, managing their own emotional journey while simultaneously supporting their children’s needs can feel overwhelming. But there’s an anchor that might surprise you: a professional nanny. Let’s talk … Read more

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What is a Guardian Ad Litem?

What is a guardian ad litem? In Illinois family law matters involving children, the concept of the best interest of the child is at the heart of everything. An ideal situation is one in which both parents are able to come to an quick and easy agreement as to what is in the best for … Read more

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When a Teenager Wants to Live with the Non-Custodial Parent

What happens when the court awards you custody, but your child wants to live with your ex? As a divorce attorney, I have seen this happen. When a teenager wants to live with the non-custodial parent, it can feel hurtful, sad, disappointing and stressful. When Can a Child Choose Where They Want to Live? There … Read more

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Divorce and Kids: 10 Things They Might Be Thinking

Going through a divorce is a painful, stressful and scary time. But it’s not just parents who feel those difficult emotions. Kids are affected, too. When it comes to divorce and kids, people often say, “Kids are resilient,” and while there is truth to that statement, that doesn’t mean kids don’t need help and support … Read more

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Neurodiverse Children: Why Their Parents Need Support, Too

If you are parents of neurodiverse children, I bet you can list the resources you have to support your children’s needs. But what about YOUR supports? Probably a much shorter list, I expect. So parents, let’s talk about how mediation can be an important tool in your toolbox for YOUR SUPPORT and for your kids … Read more

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The Ultimate Act of Love For Your Kids: Healthy Co-parenting

People think divorce harms children, when in fact it’s not the divorce itself, it’s the conflict that goes along with it. But if parents can put aside their differences and focus on the well-being of their children, they are engaging in the ultimate act of love, and providing a foundation of security, love, and emotional … Read more