Advice For Those With A Controlling Spouse

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By Jackie Pilossoph, Founder, Divorced Girl Smiling, the place to find trusted, vetted divorce professionals, a podcast, website and mobile app.

A recent flight home, where this woman seated in the window seat refused to open the shade, got me thinking about control in relationships, specifically, a controlling spouse. Here is my Love Essentially column, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press about how to recognize and handle a controlling spouse.

4 Tips For Recognizing And Controlling A Controlling Spouse by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group

I’ve always been a little bit of a nervous flyer. So when I’m on a plane, it helps if the window shade stays open. For some reason, looking out the window at 35,000 feet gives me a sense of calm, especially if the flight gets a little choppy.



So, on a recent flight home to Chicago, when I was seated in the aisle and a woman in the window seat refused to pull up the shade, I had a major issue. I was very polite in my three requests, but she was adamant about wanting the shade down.

My question is why was it her decision? It’s not her window shade. Just because I’m seated in the aisle, does that give me the right to tell the other two people in my row that I will not get up and move if they’d like to get out of their seats to use the restroom?

Was this woman being mean and inconsiderate? Or, maybe she’s a control freak. The situation got me thinking about people who are controlling, and how that might impact a romantic relationship or a marriage.

Click here to read the rest of the article, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press.

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    Jackie Pilossoph is the Founder of Divorced Girl Smiling, the media company that connects people facing with divorce to trusted, vetted divorce professionals. Pilossoph is a former NBC affiliate television journalist and Chicago Tribune/Pioneer Press features reporter. Her syndicated column, Love Essentially was published in the Chicago Tribune/Pioneer Press and Tribune owned publications for 7 1/2 years. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University. Learn more at:

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