fear of vulnerability

Do You Have a Fear of Vulnerability? Here’s Why You Shouldn’t

When someone goes through a divorce or a long term relationship breakup, one of the many hard things about it is the feeling of insecurity because you are losing someone to whom you showed incredible vulnerability. Which…might cause you to have a fear of vulnerability with future dating partners. Think about it. When you were … Read more

trusting your gut feeling about someone

Heart or Gut? Trusting Your Gut Feeling About Someone Always Pays Off

Trusting your gut feeling about someone always pays off. Trust me, I know. The heart falls fast. The gut, on the other hand keeps it real. Unfortunately, these two organs are constantly battling it out in each of us. The heart is constantly showering you with details about how wonderful and perfect the guy or … Read more

emotionally abusive relationship

5 Signs You Are In or Are Heading into An Addictive or Emotionally Abusive Relationship

No one wants to be in an emotionally abusive relationship, or an addictive relationship. So, why is it not so uncommon that people get into these kinds of relationships? There are many reasons, and going to therapy can help you uncover those reasons and work through them so that you can stop the behavior. But … Read more

regretting a breakup

Regretting a Breakup? Advice for Second Thoughts and Doubts

If I had to bet, I would say there has never been a breakup in the history of serious relationships and/or marriages, in which the couple didn’t get back together (or think about getting back together) at least one time before they got divorced. In other words, I believe that breakups in long-term relationships almost … Read more

acting like he's still married

Why Is This Woman’s Divorced Boyfriend Acting Like He’s Still Married?

There are multiple reasons people get divorced, and every divorce is unique. But almost always, when a couple splits up, among the reasons why is that the couple no longer has the desire to spend time together. Period. I mean, you get divorced because you want to be apart. But that’s not the case for … Read more

relationship happiness

6 Tips To Relationship Happiness

Most of us have heard of the concept of looking at our relationship with our partner as a garden that we plant and tend. The concept being that as with a garden, we plant the seeds of our relationship with another, and watch as it blooms into something that brings beauty and joy into our … Read more

dating advice

Dating Advice: There Are No Buts In a Healthy Romantic Relationship

I have some great dating advice, sparked by a conversation I recently had with a friend. My friend has been divorced for a couple years and recently ended a relationship that lasted for several months.   Looking back, every time I would ask her how it was going with this guy, she would say, “Well…” … Read more

givers and takers in relationships

Givers and Takers in Relationships

There are givers and takers in relationships. That doesn’t mean that in every relationship, there is one giver and one taker. A relationship could also have two takers or two givers. Or, more commonly, in every relationship, each person has qualities of a giver and those of a taker. I’ve been involved in both kinds … Read more

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Depressed After Being Ghosted? 12 Things You Need to Know

GHOSTING. If you’re online dating, you’ve heard of — and shuddered at — that term. And if you’ve online dated for longer than a couple of months, you’ve inevitably experienced it, too. It’s easy to feel depressed after being ghosted. Maybe you feel sad that someone would do something so mean. Maybe the ghosting is … Read more

is online dating worth it

Is Online Dating Worth It? You Decide

Are you so resigned about dating that you’re asking yourself: Is online dating worth it? I get it. A lot of women who come to me are exhausted by past relationships, overwhelmed by careers, families, and the true time suck of swiping left and right on online dating sites. If you’ve dabbled in modern dating, … Read more

dating a single dad

Dating A Single Dad: 5 Ways To Make Things Easier

Dating a single dad can be complicated. It can make you feel sad, frustrated, infuriated and can possibly drive you crazy, at times. Why? Because there are so many different relationships going on at the same time, and some or all can be intense and sensitive and complex. Let’s look at the dynamics of dating … Read more

Get Comfortable Being Uncomfortable, and Other Advice on Love and Divorce

Get comfortable being uncomfortable. That is one of the most valuable nuggets I’ve heard, and one that gave me the courage and inspired me to love myself and get out of a toxic marriage. Here is my story. I was so excited to be in my first real committed relationship at the age of 23. … Read more