There’s Tinder, Match.com, eHarmony, Plenty of Fish, JDate, and many many more dating sites that want to take your money and find you true love. Online dating can be exhausting and the same old sites can drive you nuts. But there’s a new site that just launched, called Jybe (JybeChicago.com.) Here is my Love Essentially column that explains the site and talks about why it’s different from the other guys.
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“Everyone is doing it but they all complain about how bad the sites are.”
That’s what Jill Rudman says about online dating, and it’s the reason why the veteran matchmaker and Highland Park mom of four decided to launch a new dating site, JybeChicago.com.
“We did a survey and the number one complaint we found about dating sites is that people are dishonest, they lie about their age, marital status, career, even their name,” said Rudman, who has spent the past two years researching and developing a business plan for the dating site, which she hopes to launch this month. “The survey also revealed they were dissatisfied with the quality of people on the sites. It can be off-putting and frustrating to get all these emails from people who clearly are not a match for you.”
Jybe got its name from the colloquial term “jibe,” which is a slang term for connecting, getting along with or matching with someone. What does Rudman hope will set her site apart from the dozens of other dating sites and apps? Rudman said “three things.”
“Jybe is an exclusive site, which means you have to apply to be a member,” she said. “We do a background check on everyone to verify they are who they say they are, and if you are lying, you are not accepted.”
Rudman also explained that Jybe, which is geared for singles ages 35-65, is a local dating site, meaning it is only for those living in Chicago and surrounding suburbs.
The last difference is that the profile setup is simple.
“On most of the other dating sites, the way the profiles are set up, you don’t get to say a lot about yourself. You’re checking boxes, answering, ‘Do you like camping?’ or ‘Would you date someone with kids?'” Rudman said. “Our profile setup consists of one or two paragraphs where you can just tell people who you are, what you are looking for, and what your passion is so people can really get a sense you.”
Also included in the profile: three photos of yourself and an optional short video.
I had a chance to go on Jybe and navigate my way as I would if I were a member, and I have to say, it was delightful. There’s no poking or winking at others. If you want to reach out to someone, you just send them an email through the site. It really seems like Rudman is going back to the basics with this. It’s no-nonsense and not complicated.
What I thought was kind of ironic is that Rudman has been married for 20 years. So I asked her about her attraction to the dating business.
“I love when people connect,” she said. “It doesn’t matter who you are or what you do for a living, everyone at the end of the day wants to have someone to come home to and I enjoy that feeling of helping them get there.”
Here’s the thing about dating sites. I always tell people that if you are considering joining one or more, be prepared to filter through the profiles and view 100 non-matches for one member who you might like. It’s kind of like shopping at Loehmann’s or T.J. Maxx. You have to sift through racks and racks of clothing you would never consider, just to find that one gem.
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