Selling your wedding rings is huge. Really huge.
I have to say, I LOVED my engagement ring. It was a round diamond, set high and surrounded by a circle of pavé diamonds, and it was on a platinum band. When I got separated, I put it in my jewelry box, and there it sat for years and years. Every now and again, I would put it on and walk around the house wearing it. I think my reasons for this were because I missed wearing the beautiful ring itself, I missed being a married woman, and I missed those years in my life when I was a young bride and a new mom.
It’s strange how emotional a piece of jewelry can make someone. I used to look at my ring and think, “This ring has been here for everything. This ring was on my finger when I danced at our wedding, this ring was on my finger when we made love and possibly conceived our children, this ring was on my finger while I fed my babies in the middle fo the night, this ring was on my finger when we fought, and this ring was on my finger when we made up. But this ring was also on my finger when we decided to split up. It’s important. It’s significant. It’s meaningful.
All that said, as the years went on, as pain faded, as peace enveloped me, as new things and new people came into my life, a new career blossomed, and yes, as my ex got remarried, I found myself looking at the ring less and less. One day, I decided it was time to part with it. It felt like good timing financially because I felt like I needed the money to pay some bills and I wasn’t working full time yet.
I wasn’t sad when I parted with it. In fact, I was more focused on the money, the future, and letting go of the past through trading in tangible proof of my marriage for more closure.
But here’s the thing I would tell anyone who asks if or when they should sell their wedding rings. The most important word that goes along with this important step in your life is:
Trust your gut that it’s time, and trust the person you sell it to.
The first thing I did was call a really good friend of mine who owns a jewelry store in my suburb. She basically told me not to sell it to her, that she couldn’t give me a very good deal, and that her and every other retail jewelry store is not the right avenue for selling your wedding rings after divorce.
I ended up selling it to a wholesale buyer out of state, and it was a very good experience. I was happy with the service, and as for the price, I was happy. The amount of money you get for your ring should be a number that YOU are happy with. Not what others think you should get, or an unrealistic number, or what your friends got, but what you in your heart feel is fair. Remember, you won’t get what your ex paid (in most cases.)
If you have wedding rings you feel like you are ready to part with, or a nice watch, or other jewelry with fine stones that you want to sell, I would recommend Worthy.
What is Worthy?
Worthy is an online website auction marketplace that is:
How does it work?
1. You go to the site (Worthy.com)
2. You fill in your name, contact information and some information about your ring: size, color, clarity, etc.
3. A representative calls you to walk you through the process.
4. Worthy sends you a FedEx package. You pack up your items and go to a FedEx place (or FedEx can pick it up from you.) Worthy pays for all the shipping and the piece(s) is insured for up to $100,000.
5. You and Worthy agree on what the lowest price you will accept is.
6. Worthy auctions your piece to over 100 potential buyers around the world.
7. You get an offer shortly.
8. If you accept it, you receive payment within 24 hours.
A couple more things: Worthy takes up to 22% of the sale price, diamonds are graded by GIA, and they have an A+ Better Business Bureau Rating
Why do I trust Worthy?
*Because I have been working with the company over the past several months and have gotten to know many executives and staff members there. They are ethical, professional, smart and trustworthy, in my opinion. There are also dozens of testimonials and reviews that show excellence in the Worthy experience.
Selling your wedding rings is sad, on one hand. I’m sure when you first put it on your finger, you didn’t imagine this day would come. And for that reason, it can feel a little depressing. That said, parting with my ring almost felt cleansing, like a fresh start, like you are removing something from your life that might have been holding you down and not allowing you to feel free and hopeful for the future.
But I must stress again, how important that one word really is: TRUST. Trust your gut. You will know when it feels right to part with your wedding rings. If it doesn’t feel good, don’t do it. There is no downside in waiting. And, trust your seller. Your gut will tell you that, too.
In closing, I thought I’d end on an interesting note. A few months ago, I wrote my Love Essentially column about what 34 women divorced did with the money they made from selling their wedding rings. Here are 10 of them that I thought were either hilarious or special:
1. I used it to buy boobs.
2. I donated it to a woman’s shelter.
3. My ex stole it.
4. I gave the money to my dad, who helped me pay for the divorce.
5. I got a new set of tires on my car.
6. I sold mine and found out it was a fake diamond. I found his ring and chucked it in a storm drain in a random parking lot one night.
7. I gave him back the ring so he could sell it to get back on his feet.
8. I never got a ring!
9. I used the money to pay for driving lessons for my kids.
10. I sold my rings to pay for nursing school.
*Worthy is a sponsor of Divorced Girl Smiling, I just want to be upfront about that. That said, I do not do business with or recommend anyone I would not do business with myself, or that I don’t believe will benefit my readers.
Like this post? Check out, “12 Things I Wish Someone Would Have Told Me When I Was First Getting Divorced”