Love Essentially

is Jackie Pilossoph's dating and relationships column, published weekly in Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press

Column: 'The Bachelor' breaks the mold in all the wrong ways

By Jackie Pilossoph, March 7, 2018

Typically, I might use the words "predictable," "scripted" and "formulaic" to describe the final rose ceremony of "The Bachelor." You get virtually the same ending — down to the exact dialogue — every season. But last night, bachelor Arie Luyendyk, Jr., changed all that, and I wish I could say "in a good way." Read The Entire Article

Column: When love turns violent, is there a way out?

By Jackie Pilossoph, Feb. 14, 2018

A few weeks ago, I watched the Golden Globes and saw "Big Little Lies" take home four awards, including one for Best Miniseries or Television Film. I was curious, and felt compelled to watch the show, especially after hearing Reese Witherspoon 's acceptance speech. "Hopefully, shows like this, more will be made. So, people out there who are feeling silenced by harassment, discrimination, abuse: time is up," said Witherspoon, who co-starred and co-produced the HBO drama. "We see you. We hear you. And we will tell your stories." Read The Entire Article


Column: Recognize any of these relationship lies?

By Jackie Pilossoph, Jan. 17, 2018

The other day, I was having lunch with a girlfriend who was complaining that she hadn't heard from a guy she went out with a few times. I asked her what she thought the reason was that he hasn't called or texted, and her answer sparked the idea for this column. "He's really busy with work right now," she rationalized. "Plus, he's going out of town." Read The Entire Article

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Column: Amid the ugliness of ALS lies the beauty of love

By Jackie Pilossoph, Dec. 29, 2017

Everything is an opportunity for something. That’s what Holly Kahan told a group of women at a recent networking meeting I attended. That seemed like a pretty reasonable statement, which can be applicable to many difficult situations. But what if the situation is that your husband of 50 years has ALS? Does such a devastating illness have room for an opportunity? Read The Entire Article