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Love Essentially
is Jackie Pilossoph's dating and relationships column, published weekly in Better Magazine
(previously in Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press)

LOVE ESSENTIALLY: WHEN IT COMES TO YOUR RELATIONSHIP, THINK LIKE AN OLYMPIC CHAMPION

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By Jackie Pilossoph, August 11, 2016

I think that everything is possible as long as you put your mind to it and you put the work and time into it.

That is a quote by Michael Phelps, the most decorated Olympian of all time, who as of Wednesday night holds 25 Olympic medals, 21 of which are gold.

Phelps is just one of the countless Olympic athletes inspiring us from Rio, not just with amazing talent, but because of something that is equally if not more important in winning than skill alone: mental strength.

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GARRY MARSHALL INSPIRED AUDIENCES IN LOVE AND ROMANCE

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By Jackie Pilossoph, July 27, 2016

When I was a fifth-grader, there was no one I envied more than Pinky Tuscadero. After all, Pinky was the Fonz's girlfriend! What I didn't know back then was that Pinky and Fonz's romance in Garry Marshall's unforgettable '70s sitcom, "Happy Days," was just a glimpse of what the brilliant writer, director, actor and producer had in store for TV and movie audiences over the next five decades.

Marshall, who died recently at the age of 81, seemed to have a deep love for tenderness, romance, humor and happy endings (with the exception of his movie, "Beaches," that had me crying for an hour) and it showed in all of his work.

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RESPOND TO ACTS OF HATE WITH LOVE

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By Jackie Pilossoph, July 13, 2016

Hopeless and depressing are two words that came to mind when I heard about the Dallas police shootings last week.

The ambush that led to five dead and seven injured police officers, as well as two injured civilians, made me think about how much prejudice and hatred there is in the world, and I felt more pessimistic than ever about race relations, which seem increasingly strained by the day.

But then I thought of something. It came to me as a glimpse of hope for an issue that seems to lack any. Both the killings of innocent black men by police officers and the killings of brave, hard-working police officers are out of our control in a direct sense. However, there is something every human being can control: the way we respond to these despicable acts of hate.

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SEX - WHAT HE WANTS AND WHAT SHE'S THINKING

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By Jackie Pilossoph, July 6, 2016

A man sees a beautiful woman walking down the street, and his mind automatically thinks about what it would be like to sleep with her. On the contrary, a woman sees that same beautiful woman, and she wonders what color her lipstick is and where she got her cute handbag.

While not the case with all men and women, this example illustrates the male gender's spontaneous desire for sex, and the frequency of his sexual thoughts, according to Suzy Olds. Olds is the founder of her relationship wellness company, After Nine Tonight, which offers tasteful, implied sexual content videos to help monogamous couples reignite the spark in their relationships.

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